Lawyers for two Guantanamo Bay detainees cited the Hobby Lobby decision to argue for their clients’ rights to perform prayers during Ramadan. However, federal courts have argued that the detainees didn’t qualify as persons under the Religious Freedom Restoration Act. Wow.
I swear this just reminds me more and more of Animal Farm.
I got nominated for a Harvey Award!
If you can, I think you should vote for me because that would be a pretty cool thing to do.
I can’t vote, lacking comic creation chops, but people who do have them should vote for Gunnerkrigg Court on my behalf.
In light of the 50 Shades of Grey trailer coming out today, quick reminder that that book is about an abusive and controlling relationship, not BDSM.
Fanfiction (published or not) is important for women of all ages to explore gender roles and sexuality in a way that is less stigmatized and more accessible.
But do not do the BDSM community a disservice by calling the relationship described in the book a BDSM experience.
mmm yeah but this argument kinda reminds me of when people are like REAL Christians aren’t bigots. or REAL men don’t catcall or whatever.
there are abusive BDSM relationships. you don’t get to assert that people aren’t part of your community just because they’re bad.
Imagine for a moment that you are a person embarking on their first BDSM relationship with a more experienced partner. Imagine that you have never been exposed to a BDSM dynamic outside of that depicted in Fifty Shades or, to be frank, most of popular culture. Imagine you don’t know what an abusive relationship looks like. All your popular knowledge of BDSM is telling you that an abusive relationship looks a lot like BDSM and vice versa. When your abusive partner uses BDSM as an excuse to abuse you, wouldn’t you wish someone had warned you that BDSM does not necessarily equal abuse?
Fifty Shades of Grey and a lot of the greater mainstream culture perpetuate dangerous misunderstandings about BDSM and safe, sane, and consensual sex. Arguments like this, which point out that not all BDSM is abusive, serve as an important warning to those entering BDSM relationships with ideas purely from this greater culture. Abusers using the excuse “it’s BDSM, I don’t need to worry about your consent,” or “it’s BDSM, you’re supposed to be uncomfortable/hurt,” very much exist, and the BDSM community in general is rightfully concerned about their existence and the harm they might do by taking advantage of preconceptions perpetuated by media like Fifty Shades of Grey.
Yes, this argument is similar to that used by misogynists and bigots of all stripes. However, when someone asserts that all swans are white, it is not evil to point out a black swan. Context is important, and this argument is important to take a very, very commonly used weapon away from abusers who masquerade as BDSM enthusiasts.
Please do not dismiss it idly.